• Enjoy Better Sex

    Clinical Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, & Certified Sexual Wellness Therapist

    Sex Therapy for Individuals and Couples

    Welcome to my San Diego based Telehealth practice. I’m Dr. Eric van der Voort, a Clinical Psychologist (PSY27892) with dual certifications in Sex Therapy and Sexual Wellness. I provide personalized, effective, and evidence-based psychotherapy and sex therapy services to adults throughout California. My passion is helping motivated individuals and couples to reignite their intimacy and reclaim their sexuality.

    I specialize in working with kinky & non-monogamous individuals and couples of any sexual orientation. Patients seek me out to address concerns with sexual performance anxieties, desire discrepancies, questions about their sexuality, difficulty communicating effectively with partners, and misuse of porn, sex, or substances. I also help straight-identified men understand and appreciate their attraction to trans women. My inclusive practice enthusiastically welcomes those of any sexual orientation, gender identity, kink, relationship dynamic, and behaviors between consenting adults.

    If you’d like to better understand and appreciate your own eroticism, challenge unhelpful thoughts, improve communication with your partner, be more present during sex, and explore new ways of experiencing pleasure, then I’d love to help. Click the link below to get started on your journey toward better sex and overall wellness.

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    Common Concerns in Sex Therapy

    Performance Anxiety & Desire Discrepancies

    • You sometimes feel like there’s something wrong with your body when it comes to sex.
    • You are less interested in sex than you or your partner would like, or you’re less interested in sex than you used to be.
    • You have difficulty getting and sustaining an erection during sex, or difficulty having an orgasm.
    • You and your partner prefer to have sex in different ways and this makes sex feel like a chore.
    • You can’t stop thinking about how you “should” be or act during sex, and this distraction keeps you from being fully present in sex.

    Relationships & Effective Communication

    • You want to better communicate with your partner about sex.
    • It’s hard for you to tell your partner your sexual wants and needs.
    • You’re thinking about opening up your relationship, whether for love, sex, or both.
    • You feel like you’re missing the emotional and/or sexual intimacy you wish you had with your partner.
    • You allow your sexual and romantic desires to go unspoken and unmet.
    • You often prioritize the needs of others, leaving you to feel unfulfilled and resentful.

    Sex/Porn "Addiction"

    • Your sex or porn use is interfering with your self-esteem, work, relationships, or other obligations.
    • You have been told that you have a porn or sex “addiction,” or you feel guilty or ashamed about your use of porn or sex.
    • It’s often easier for you to masturbate to porn than it is to enjoy partnered sex.
    • You have difficulty becoming aroused, wet, erect, or experiencing an orgasm if you’re not looking at porn.
    • You feel disconnected from your values in your interactions with porn, online dating, hookup apps, strip clubs, or sex work.

    BDSM, Kinks, & Fantasies

    • You have sexual fantasies you’d like to explore but you’re unsure where or how to start.
    • You feel guilty or ashamed about your interests or attractions to certain types of people, porn, kinks, or fantasies.
    • You’re interested in learning more about kinks/BDSM, consent, power exchange, and how to play safely.

    Substance Use & Sex

    • All or most of the sex that you find enjoyable happens when you’re under the influence of a substance.
    • You feel anxious when thinking about having sex without drugs or alcohol.
    • Your alcohol or substance use is preventing you from connecting with others or from creating the intimacy you’d like to have in your life.

    Attraction & Sexual Preference

    • You’d like to explore your sexuality and to feel more sexually confident.
    • You’re a straight-identified man who feels confused by your attraction to trans women.
    • The sex you’re having is not the sex you really want.
    • You’ve felt embarrassed or judged by others when talking about your attraction to certain people.

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