• Kink & LGBTQ+ Affirming Sex Therapist & Psychologist in California

    Welcome to my private practice My goal is to help you live a more satisfying life while enjoying better sex. My name is Dr. Eric van der Voort, a Sex Therapist and Licensed Psychologist based in San Diego, California. I specialize in providing high quality Psychotherapy and Sex Therapy services to adult individuals and couples living in California. Appointments take place on a secure, HITRUST-certified and HIPAA-compliant Video Telehealth platform. You can easily access sessions from your computer, laptop, tablet, or smartphone, allowing you to receive the support you need without disrupting your day.

    In my practice, I work best with motivated individuals and couples who want to feel more empowered by their sexual and erotic desires, more attuned to their wants and needs, more confident in expressing themselves, more connected to their partner(s), and more knowledgable about how to enjoy better sex. Essential to success with this kind of work is an openness to trying out new ideas and a willingness to be curious about yourself.

    My work is informed by evidence-based research, professional mentorship from world-renowned Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Marty Kleinand years of experience in this fascinating field. Patients often describe my professional style as being down-to-earth, nonjudgmental, supportive, direct, effective, and playfully engaging. Together, we will identify and address the barriers that keep you from getting more of what you want, both in and out of the bedroom.

    When you’re ready to feel more confident, to communicate more effectively, to explore your kinky fantasies, and to discover new ways of experiencing pleasure, I invite you to schedule your free Introductory Phone CallI look forward to helping you enjoy better sex and overall wellness.

    Common Concerns Addressed in Sex Therapy

    BDSM, Kinks, & Fantasies

    • You and/or your partner(s) have sexual fantasies you’d like to explore but you’re unsure where or how to start.
    • You and/or your partner(s) feel guilty or ashamed about your and/or their interests or attractions to certain types of people, porn, kinks, or fantasies.
    • You’re interested in learning more about kinks/BDSM, consent, power exchange, and how to play safely.

    Performance Anxiety & Desire Discrepancies

    • You sometimes feel like there’s something wrong with your body when it comes to sex.
    • You and/or your partner(s) are less interested in sex than you’d like, or than you or they used to be.
    • You and/or your patner(s) find it difficult to get and maintain an erection or lubrication during sex, or to feel aroused enough to be interested in sex.

    Substance Use & Sex

    • Most or all of the sex you have or enjoy happens while you’re under the influence of a substance.
    • Thinking about having sex without drugs or alcohol gives you and/or your partner(s) anxiety.
    • Alcohol or substance use is preventing you from connecting with others or creating the intimacy you’d like to have.

    Sexuality & Sexual Identity

    • You’d like to explore your sexuality and to feel more sexually confident.
    • The sex you’re having is not the sex you really want.
    • You want to have better sex more often.
    • You’ve tried “spicing things up” in the bedroom, only to fall back into old patterns shortly afterward.
    • You feel frustrated or hopeless with the quality of sex you have.
    • Since COVID, it’s been harder for you to feel comfortable having sex with new people.
    • You’ve previously felt judged or embarrassed when talking about your sex life to important people in your life.

    Pornography & Masturbation

    • Porn use is interfering with your self-esteem, relationships, work, or other obligations.
    • You and/or your partner(s) have been told that you and/or they have a porn or sex “addiction” and feel guilty or ashamed about it.
    • It is sometimes easier for you and/or your partner(s) to masturbate to porn than it is to find pleasure in having partnered sex.
    • You feel disconnected from your values when you use porn, online dating & hookup apps, strip clubs, sex workers, or FBSM.
    • You have difficulty becoming aroused, wet, erect, or experiencing an orgasm if you’re not looking at porn.

    Relationships & Effective Communication

    • You want to better communicate with your partner(s) about sex.
    • It’s hard for you to tell your partner(s) your sexual wants and needs.
    • You allow your sexual and romantic desires to go unspoken and unmet.
    • You often put the needs of others above your own, leaving you to feel unfulfilled and resentful.
    • You feel like you’re missing the emotional and/or sexual intimacy you wish you had with your partner(s).
    • You’re thinking about opening up your relationship, whether for love, sex, or both.

    Ready to Enjoy Better Sex?