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    • Therapy for Better Sex

    About Dr. van der Voort My Specialty Areas

    Specialized Psychotherapy and Sex Therapy

    Do you want to feel empowered by your sexual desires, attuned to your wants and needs, and knowledgable about how to enjoy better sex? 

    My name is Dr. Eric van der Voort, Certified Sexual Wellness Therapist and Psychologist (Lic. # PSY27892). From my video Telehealth office in San Diego, I provide psychotherapy and sex therapy services to individuals and couples throughout California. My ultimate goal is to help you live a more mindful, intimate, and rewarding life so you can experience better sex and overall wellness.

    Common Topics In Therapy
    Anxiety, Depression, & GriefSexual Performance AnxietiesSexual Desire Discrepancies
    Kinks & FantasiesNon-MonogamyAttraction & Sexual Orientation
    Relationship ConflictSubstance UseInfidelity & Sex/Porn “Addiction”

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    Clinical Specialties

    Sex Therapy

    LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapy

    Therapy for All Relationships

    Therapy for Anxiety

    Therapy for Depression

    Substance Use Treatment

    Grief Therapy

    Common Sex Therapy Topics

    Sexuality & Sexual Identity

    BDSM, Kinks, & Fantasies

    Performance Anxieties & Desire Discrepancies 

    Pornography, Masturbation, & Infidelity

    Substance Use & Sex

    Effective Communication in Relationships

    Common Concerns Addressed in Sex Therapy

    BDSM, Kinks, & Fantasies

    • You have sexual fantasies you’d like to explore but you’re unsure where or how to start.
    • You feel guilty or ashamed about your interests or attractions to certain types of people, porn, kinks, or fantasies.
    • You’re interested in learning more about kinks/BDSM, consent, power exchange, and how to play safely.
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    Performance Anxiety & Desire Discrepancies

    • You sometimes feel like there’s something wrong with your body when it comes to sex.
    • You are less interested in sex than you or your partner would like, or than you used to be.
    • You find it difficult to get and maintain an erection or lubrication during sex.
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    Substance Use & Sex

    • Most or all of the sex you have or enjoy happens while you’re under the influence of a substance.
    • Thinking about having sex without drugs or alcohol gives you anxiety.
    • Alcohol or substance use is preventing you from connecting with others or creating the intimacy you’d like to have.
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    Attraction & Sexual Preference

    • You’d like to explore your sexuality and to feel more sexually confident.
    • The sex you’re having is not the sex you really want.
    • You want to have better sex more often.
    • You’ve tried “spicing things up” in the bedroom, only to fall back into old patterns shortly afterward.
    • You feel frustrated or hopeless with the quality of sex you have.
    • Since COVID and/or your last sexual relationship, it’s been harder for you to feel comfortable having sex with new people.
    • You’ve previously felt judged or embarrassed when talking about your sex life to important people in your life.
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    Sex "Addiction" & Porn "Addiction"

    • Your sex or porn use is interfering with your self-esteem, relationships, work, or other obligations.
    • You have been told that you have a porn or sex “addiction,” or you feel guilty or ashamed about your use of porn or sex.
    • It is sometimes easier for you to masturbate to porn than it is to find pleasure in having partnered sex.
    • You feel disconnected from your values in the ways you engage with porn, online dating, hookup apps, strip clubs, or sex workers.
    • You have difficulty becoming aroused, wet, erect, or experiencing an orgasm if you’re not looking at porn.
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    Relationships & Effective Communication

    • You want to better communicate with your partner about sex.
    • It’s hard for you to tell your partner your sexual wants and needs.
    • You allow your sexual and romantic desires to go unspoken and unmet.
    • You often put the needs of others above your own, leaving you to feel unfulfilled and resentful.
    • You feel like you’re missing the emotional and/or sexual intimacy you wish you had with your partner.
    • You’re thinking about opening up your relationship, whether for love, sex, or both.
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