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Sex Therapy in California

Eric van der Voort, PsyD, CST

Welcome to my practice! My name is Dr. Eric van der Voort. I am an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Psychologist in California (PSY27892)From my office in San Diego, I offer video Telehealth services to adult men and women throughout California. 

I've specialized in empowering patients reach their sexual and mental health goals for over a decade. Even more rewarding is helping patients understand how their sexual and relationship concerns also play out in other parts of their lives, and how they can address them.

The most common sexual and relationship concerns I treat:

- Sexual Performance Anxieties
- Difficulties with Arousal, Erections, & Orgasm
- Strained Communication in Relationships
- Navigating Non-Monogamy Agreements
- Embracing Your Sexual Attractions
- Exploring Kink & BDSM
- Substance Use with Sex
- Sexual Guilt & Shame
- Porn Use & Misuse
- Infidelity

Whether you’re kinky or vanilla, monogamous or non-monogamous, straight or part of the LGBTQ+ community, I’ll help you better resolve your sexual performance and arousal concerns, embrace your sexual fantasies, resolve unhelpful communication patterns and ongoing relationship conflicts, create practical relationship agreements, and enjoy better sex. 

When you're ready to begin your journey toward better sex and overall wellness, click the link below to get started. I look forward to working with you!

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"Redefining Sex: Performance Anxiety, Kinks, and the Truth About Intimacy"


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Sex Therapy is Effective

Do sexual and/or relationship challenges leave you feeling inadequate, ashamed, confused, or hopeless?

Do you want to have a healthier relationship with sex and learn healthier relationship habits overall? 

What if you could simultaneously gain valuable insights while feeling more confident both in and out of the bedroom?

Sex therapy is effective & empowering treatment for those wanting to address their sexual & relationship concerns.


Can You Relate To These Common Concerns?

Performance Anxiety

  • You have difficulty getting and maintaining your erection during sex.
  • You have difficulty achieving orgasm, or you orgasm sooner or later than you'd like.
  • You believe that sex should feel different from the sex you're having.

Communication Problems

  • You have a hard time telling your partner what you really want and need.
  • You prioritize the needs of others, leaving you feeling unfulfilled & resentful.
  • You avoid discussing relationship concerns for fear that you'll push your partner away.

Porn Use

  • You feel guilty or ashamed about your relationship with porn, or about the content of the porn you like.
  • You watch more porn than you'd like, or you've been told that you have a "porn addiction."
  • Your partner's porn use leaves you feeling inadequate, undesired, and frustrated.

Sexual Attraction

  • You’re questioning your sexual orientation.
  • You're a straight man who feels confused by your attraction to trans women.
  • You're turned on by people, things, or activities that you wish you weren't.

Fantasies, Kinks, BDSM

  • You feel ashamed about some sexual fantasies and kinks.
  • You believe that what you fantasize about & what turns you on make you "bad," "unlovable," or a "pervert."
  • You think that only "damaged" people enjoy BDSM.

Substance Use

  • You prefer sex when you’re intoxicated and you feel uncomfortable during sober sex.
  • You wonder how consent is impacted by substance use. 
  • Your substance use keeps you from connecting with others and having the intimacy you crave.

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