The Truth About Sex

Sex can be so much fun! However, it can also be a source of complex, confusing, and painful thoughts and feelings. Things like stress, life changes, effective communication problems, past painful experiences, fears, negative views of your body or genitals, and performance anxieties can all negatively impact sexual desire and how pleasurable sex can be. 

As a result, people comes to sex therapy with a variety of concerns. Here are some common problems where sex therapy can help:

• Difficulties getting or sustaining erections, or changes in vaginal lubrication
• Changes in sexual desire or arousal, including desire discrepancies between partners
• Difficulties with orgasm (premature or delayed) or inability to experience orgasms (anorgasmia)
• Sexual script discrepancies between partners
• Having sex that feels unfulfilling, impulsive or disconnected
• Engaging in sexual behaviors you wish you didn’t, including misuse of porn
• Feeling confused, ashamed, and embarrassed about your fantasies, preferences, or kinks
• Having little or no experience with safely and mindfully incorporating BSDM into sex

Overview of Sex Therapy

Sex Therapy is an effective way to address many kinds of sexual concerns. It allows you to better understand your sexual preferences and turn ons, fantasies, and anxieties, as well as what’s preventing you from having the kind of sex you'd most enjoy. You’ll become more aware of your beliefs, feelings, values, patterns, and expectations related to sex. You’ll also discover how sex can be more fulfilling and pleasurable for you.

How Sex Therapy Can Help

As a psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist, my goal is to help unburden people from unnecessary guilt, shame, and emotional suffering related to sex, sexuality, and eroticism. If you’re forcing yourself to be in the mood for sex when there is a desire discrepancy in the relationship, the less pleasurable and the more laborious sex becomes. Also, if you’re attempting to control or ignore a sexual fantasy or erotic preference, sex can become wrought with guilt, shame, and isolation.

Sharing these hidden parts of ourselves with a skilled and nonjudgmental Certified Sex Therapist can be a wonderfully healing experience. It also gives you the chance to explore how sex and eroticism can be more fun and fulfilling to you.

Working in therapy to understand and address the many sources that influence your sexuality, eroticism, and desire helps to untangle unhelpful narratives about sex. This results in improved feelings and attitudes toward sex and your body. I'll also help you to better align your actions with your values so you can stop the cycle of shame and guilt from unfulfilling behaviors.

If you have concerns about sex or sexuality, or if you simply want to learn to better enjoy the sex you’re having, schedule your free 15-minute Introductory Phone Consultation or your first 60-minute Initial Evaluation for Therapy appointment today to start enjoying better sex.