Overview of Sex Therapy

Sex Therapy is an effective way to address many kinds of sexual concerns. It allows you to better understand your sexual preferences, fantasies, and anxieties, as well as what’s preventing you from having the sex you most enjoy. You’ll become more aware of your beliefs, feelings, values, patterns, and expectations related to sex. You’ll also have the opportunity to choose how sex can be more fulfilling and pleasurable for you. For some, this can include how to safely and mindfully incorporate kinks and BSDM into your sex.

Let’s Be Real

Sex and sexuality can be so much fun! However, they can often be sources of complex, confusing, and painful thoughts and feelings. Stress, life changes, difficulty communicating effectively in relationships, discomfort with feeling vulnerable, negatively comparing your body or genitals to others’, and performance anxieties can all negatively impact your sexual desire and ability to experience pleasurable sex. As a result, people comes to sex therapy with a variety of concerns. Here are some common problems where sex therapy can help:

• Difficulties or changes in desire, arousal, and getting or sustaining erections or lubrication
• Difficulties with orgasm (premature or delayed) or inability to experience orgasms
• Sexual script discrepancies between partners
• Having sex that feels unfulfilling, impulsive or disconnected
• Engaging in sexual behaviors you wish you didn’t
• Noticing a change in your desire for sex, whether you want it more or less than you used to
• Feeling confused, ashamed, and embarrassed about your fantasies, preferences, kinks, or participation in alternative relationship structures or lifestyles
• Having little or no experience with safely and mindfully incorporating BSDM into your sex life

How Therapy Helps

My goal is to help unburden people from unnecessary guilt, shame, and emotional suffering related to sex, sexuality, and eroticism. If you’re forcing yourself to be in the mood for sex when there is a desire discrepancy in the relationship, the less pleasurable and the more laborious sex becomes. If you’re also attempting to control or ignore a sexual fantasy or erotic preference, sex can become wrought with guilt and shame.

Sharing these hidden parts of ourselves with a skilled and nonjudgmental Certified Sex Therapist can be a wonderfully healing experience. It also gives you the chance to explore how sex and eroticism can be more fun and fulfilling to you. After all, isn’t that one of the best parts about sex?

Working in therapy to understand and address the many sources that influence your sexuality, eroticism, and desire helps to untangle unhelpful narratives about sex. This results in improved feelings and attitudes toward sex and your body. I also work with you to align your actions with your values so you can stop the cycle of shame and guilt from unfulfilling behaviors.

If you have concerns about sex or sexuality, or if you simply want to learn to better enjoy the sex you’re having, schedule your free 15-minute phone consultation or your first 60-minute Initial Evaluation for Therapy appointment today to start enjoying better sex.